"But these norms are neither self-impose nor natural—they are learned via membership in the society that defines the roles. Social facts are thus determinant of individual, and they perdure over time….In this sense society is both something beyond us and something in ourselves."
- Someone: We should do something.
- Me: *whispers* Disneylaaanddd.
lucifierrr asked: Do you think you're spoiling Ashtyn by taking her to disneyland all the time?
The short answer? Yes :) & I will continue to do so until the day I die and then some.
If my daughter chooses to settle down when she is older, I want her expectations of that man or woman to be nothing short of astronomical, and not solely in material goods - we spoil her with overwhelming amounts of love and attention.
Being “spoiled” has a negative connotation. When you are raised to appreciate the things people do for you and understand how special they are, you don’t grow up spoiled - you grow to be grateful of the opportunities you have had and how you came to experience them.
Reblogging because I really like this!How is taking your child so often going to make her appreciate the experience? How is spoiling her in a material way which is indeed what you’re doing going to make her appreciate anyone she’s with in the future? So she should only appreciate constantly being spoilt in every kind of way and not just appreciate a person for who they are and not what they do for her? Ok.
I think you’ve missed the point in a huge way so I will break it down for you: My daughter doesn’t know the cost of a Disneyland pass - she’s not even 2 years old. She isn’t sitting on Splash Mountain thinking “wow, I really love when my dad spends $600 on a Disneyland pass.” She’s having a positive experience with people that love her.
I can evoke the same emotional responses from her by venturing to the pool, park, building a couch fort, playing music on my guitar, reading a book, or singing in the car. Disneyland is ONE location we visit together that is highly publicized on my blog because people like, reblog, and are interested in the happiest place on earth.
If you took 2 seconds to read my blog or send me a message you would understand that everything you said in your few ignorant sentences is empty, bitter, and unfounded.
How some one raises their child has nothing to with anyone other than that person and their child. Who are you to question anyone’s parenting?
My parents have taken me on family vacations to several countries through out my life. You know what that did for me? Gave me long lasting memories, experience to other cultures, and a great appreciation for my parents. I know how hard they worked in order to make those few short days/weeks meaningful. I appreciate them taking the time and putting together the money to give me an experience I’ll treasure over a material good.
Would someone consider me spoiled? I’m sure they would. Would I disagree with them? In some ways no. But would I care what they think? Not particularly. So why do you care about someone else’s life?